A Ritual to Let Go of Regrets

I’ll be really up front here: my deepest fear is regret. Whenever I take my last breaths in this lifetime, I never want the thoughts that cross my mind to be “I wish I would have…”, “Why didn’t I…?”, “I should have….” or anything of the like.

It has take me nearly 39 years to dig down to that level of understanding myself to be able to pinpoint exactly that, and that is what has been driving my decisions and life for the last few years at least.

So, in the vein of regret and trying to have as few as possible when its my time to go, I designed this ritual to facilitate acknowledging what we currently regret, letting it go, and then recognizing that we still have time to make our lives what we want.

Best time to do this ritual:

  • Waning phase (between the full moon and the next new moon)
  • On the new moon

The energy for letting go and moving forward is best during this part of the moon phase, especially the closer we get to the new moon.

What you will need:

  • a flame resistant/heat resistant dish or cauldron (stone, cast iron, etc)
  • a handful of dried rue*
  • a black candle (white can be substituted if you don’t have black)
  • a match or lighter
  • a piece of paper and something to write with

*Rue is helpful for breaking curses and unbinding things, or cutting connections, which is what we are looking for in this ritual, to cut the emotional connections we may still be carrying with us centered around these regrets; other very relevant and lesser known properties of rue include atonement and fresh starts, both of which I think are really perfect symbolically for this ritual, and that’s why I’ve chosen this particular herb.

Meadow rue

What you will do:

  1. Take some time to think about the most heavy regrets you are carrying with you and write those down. Be as specific as you need, or simply write a statement that represents that regret.
  2. Once you have your list, light your candle and meditate on your list, visualizing letting regrets flow from your physical and energetic body. Cup your hands and hold the dried rue in your hands; visualize the weight of those regrets lifting from you, and release them, transferring that to the rue. Say your peace and farewell to them and let the rue take them from you. Understand these cannot be changed because they are in the past, but we need not continue to carry them with us.
  3. Once you have finished and you feel you have adequately released the energy of those regrets, put the rue into your bowl, dish, or cauldron and light it on fire. Fold or crumple your list and place it in the cauldron, too, and let it burn down. As you do this, visualize breathing in clean bright light of opportunity and new promise and breathing out any last energy that has been lingering holding you back.

This is a quite simple ritual, and does not need to be complicated. I find it most helpful to speak out loud what I am letting go, acknowledging it, and making my peace with it. If you are unable to do that, you can also recite your list to yourself in your mind as you meditate.

An Ostara Bath Ritual

Ostara is the official start of spring. Its also referred to in astrological terms as the Vernal Equinox. It falls approximately half way between the Winter Solstice and the Summer Solstice.

Traditionally, Ostara represents new beginnings, fresh starts, birth, fertility, and all the things we associate with the Spring season, or this time of year in the Northern Hemisphere.

A ritual bath for Ostara is best used to focus on welcoming or manifesting new beginnings, starting something new, beginning a new path or journey, or other life or spiritual changes that might fit into this category.

What you will need:

Several handfuls of any kind of flowers, but some that are recommended for Ostara baths are:

Lilacs, lavender, roses, rosemary, or any other flower beginning to bloom now. If you gather them wild, it is recommended you say thanks for the bounty or leave a small offering on the land from which you gathered them.

Essential oils of any of those flowers, or others that you feel drawn to

Optional: ~1 cup any plant-based milk (oats, macadamia, almond, or coconut)

What you will do:

If you want to write down intentions or things to say/request beforehand, feel free. Also feel free to incorporate candles or crystals as you wish.

Add all ingredients to a bath of appropriate temperature.

Before stepping into the water, visualize yourself stepping out of the old and into the new. The tub or basin represents a threshold through which you will shed whatever you are leaving behind and will welcome whatever you are starting new.

Sit and enjoy the bath as long as you want! That’s it.

What is Initiation?

and, more importantly, why should you do or participate in an initiation?

What an Initiation Is (and is not)

First, initiation simply means a beginning. It is the initial statement or commitment to someone or something. It can be a private and solitary act or one done in front of one or more other people.

In a spiritual or magickal context, initiation is usually a formal declaration to a mystical pursuit, whether it be a specific school of practice or belief, or to a local group, such as a coven or occult organization.

Many of us think of initiation and visions of Hollywood-esque rituals come to mind in which everyone is wearing robes, torches burn in a darkened chamber, virgins get sacrificed, and blood oaths are sworn.

In reality, however, initiations are much more symbolic and (usually) less bloody. They are an event that signifies a transition between the initiate’s life before stepping on this path and the rest of that person’s life, physical and spiritual.

If you are initiating into a group of any kind, it is important to understand up front what is expected of you and what you should expect from others during the ritual or ceremony. This information should be transparent at all times to you.

Any person or group that will not share with you at a minimum expectations of events is probably someone you shouldn’t be initiating into anything with.

Why should you initiate into a path or tradition?

There comes a point on the journey of every occultist, magickal practitioner, witch, heathen, pagan or other spiritual person that they feel compelled to dedicate themselves more formally to a particular deity, path, practice, ideology, school of thought, belief system, group of like-minded peers, or other organization.

Not everyone wants to be part of a group, however. Sometimes we self-initiate to a particular path that calls to us. A really common example in many I know is that of Luciferianism. Luciferians can be both theistic or atheistic, but regardless, many seem to be (mostly) solitary practitioners, seeking knowledge and enlightenment on their own terms and in the ways they feel most comfortable.

Many of them self-initiate with perhaps a private ritual to dedicate themselves to the path and the pursuit. This is no less meaningful or ‘real’ than initiating in front of a group. It is as serious and real as the person initiating and their intent in their actions and words.

Regardless of whether you self-initiate or with a group, initiation places responsibility and commitment on you to the path you are choosing. You are stating that you will commit to this path or this group or this educational pursuit in a way that you cannot just forget or blow off. Saying something out loud gives it power. You are making your intent known and stamping it on your soul in a way.

Most schools of magickal or occult tradition have an initiation requirement and for several reasons. First, they are selective about to whom they will give instruction on the mystical or occult arts. Not everyone should pursue that path for a number of reasons.

Second, they want to ensure that initiates are serious about their commitment. Prior to the initiation, there are usually a series of tasks the initiate is expected to complete or demonstrate some knowledge or proficiency in, as a means of ensuring someone will put in the work necessary to master the skills and knowledge they seek.

And last, it creates a sense of community and connection in groups to perform initiations. These often demonstrate that the initiate is willing to submit to the group’s authority and expertise, putting everyone on the same playing field, so to speak.

If self-initiating, all of these reasons may still be true for you, but you may simply be initiating to a path or pursuit that does not quite fit into the confines of any of the pre-organized sects or schools, groups or covens, and perhaps you need something more personalized and eclectic. There’s nothing wrong with that option either.

How to Self-Initiate

I won’t go into the process of group initiations because there are far too many to discuss and each has their own unique systems. If you prefer to seek initiation into a group or school, contact them to find out how best to begin working with, learning from, participating, and so forth in order to eventually initiate. Most will not let you initiate first thing.

Self-initiation, on the other hand, can be a very powerful and uplifting ritual for you. Before planning anything else, define specifically what you want to initiate into.

It’s important here to acknowledge that you cannot initiate yourself into a closed belief system. For instance, most Afro-Caribbean systems are considered closed, and initiation can only come from a designated practitioner or leader within the system or organization. So, please be respectful of any of the systems which require you work through a designated spiritual leader before being allowed to practice or participate on your own.

Let’s say, however, you want to self-initiate as a follower of a specific deity (from an open system), or initiate on the path of spiritual enlightenment. Identify your path and purpose and then consider what type of ritual you want to perform. Do you feel most comfortable outdoors? Is the deity in question associated with a specific location, or profession?

Start to put together a vision of what you would like your initiation to be like and what you hope to accomplish during it.

Include a list of any herbs, oils, crystals, or other correspondences important to your path. A good all around recommendation for initiation to a spiritual or mystical path is frankincense, myrrh, and sandalwood (incense and/or essential oils).

Gather a candle(s) (black and white are fine if you’re not sure of what other color may be appropriate) and any offerings you want to leave either for a deity or just to the land on which you are performing your ritual, even if indoors.

If you want to write out a statement beforehand, this is recommended. I sometimes find myself tongue-tied in the moment, or I think of exactly what I want to say beforehand but I’ve forgotten it all by the time I arrive at the actual moment I need it.

Sit quietly and meditate on your path for as long as you need. Try to picture what you want to do, who you want to grow into, how you want it to change your life, and any other important points you want in your consciousness during this.

Light any candles and invite any spirit guides or deities to be present. State your intentions, what you specifically intend to initiate and commit to, and anything else you feel is important. Leave any offerings, play music you feel is relevant, and/or share a drink or food; thank your deities/spirits for coming, dismissing them respectfully.

And that’s pretty much it. Following on, make sure you provide yourself a reasonable system of checking in on your progress and commitment so that you can feel as if you are keeping to your promises.

Ideas for Self-Initiation

Bath rituals

Baking a loaf of bread with herbs representing your new path; eat some each day for 7 days

Plant a garden to represent your new path or in dedication to your deity(ies)

Hike to a quiet place in nature and leave offerings along with your written commitment

Plan a 28-day ritual involving each of the 4 main moon phases (new beginning, growth, manifestation, inward reflection/cutting ties with the old)

Blood and Milk: A Full Moon in Cancer Bath Ritual

This week I hope you’re feeling all the feels like I am, because it’s so fabulous, right? Unless you’re an earth sign that doesn’t feel as at home in your feels (Capricorn, Taurus, and Virgo, I’m lookin’ at you đŸ˜‰ ). Maybe I’m biased because I am a Cancer myself, but I’m personally loving it.

But let’s say that you need to feel things every once in a while, as we really all do. Let this week’s full moon in Cancer be one of those times. The Moon is at home in Cancer, which is ruled by it. This is all about those delicious emotions. And 2020 has been a year of….emotions, if nothing else.

Why not go out with a bang as this year ends, the final Full Moon of the year is in THE sign for feeling things, and we can wipe clean that slate of everything we went through, setting a strong foundation for a more stable 2021?

This bath ritual will help you tap into those emotions and channel them into something you want them to be, or something that can help you get what you want, or simply just offload them and wash them down the drain as this year closes out.

I designed this ritual to be both cleansing and empowering, hence Blood and Milk.

Blood is well known for its power in magick and ritual. It represents life force, power, energy, and the element fire. The ritual calls for dragon’s blood essential oil or fragrance oil, but you can certainly substitute a few drops of your own blood for that. Please do not use anyone else’s blood or blood of other animals for this particular ritual, as this is about you.

Milk is commonly used in ritual or magickal baths as a purifier and I’ve explored that a bit here. Historically, this is only attributed to animal-based milks, but I do know of vegan witches who have used plant-based milks such as coconut or oat milk in place of cow milk/goat milk. I can’t speak to whether it has the same intended effects or outcomes personally, though. So experiment with what works best for you.

What you will need:

  • 1 cup milk of your choice
  • 5-10 drops of dragon’s blood oil, fragrance oil, or a few chunks of resin
  • optional: a few drops of your own blood (using a diabetic lancet is the most sanitary and easiest way to obtain this, please do not collect your own blood if you are not sure how to do so safely without harm to yourself)
  • 2 Tbsp rue*, fresh or dried
  • Lilac blossoms**, dried or fresh, any color

What you will do:

  1. Run your bath as you normally would. I like to light candles of various symbolic colors around my tub and turn out the lights. I usually ask for any deities I feel are relevant to my working that night to attend and share with me.
  2. Add all the above ingredients to your bath and swirl around to mix well.
  3. Climb in!
  4. As you sink into the water, think of what you want to cut the chords from or let go of from this year. You might even want to make a list beforehand, and read it aloud or silently to yourself. When I do this, I usually light it on fire after reading it and then drop it in the water before I burn myself, but you can decide if that is safe or appropriate for your situation.
  5. Next think about what energy or emotions you want to call to yourself. Calm, peace, happiness, love, compassion, lust, ferocity– whatever you feel you need more of in your life. Feel those emotions as deeply as you can while you’re in the bath.
  6. Play some music you like, sing to yourself, show yourself love, masturbate– whatever you feel is representative of the emotions you’re feeling right then and the ones you want to face head on, or even those you want to tap into or call to yourself in the coming year. Make this about you.
  7. Stay in there as long as you need to feel cleansed of the past and ready for the future.
  8. You got this, witch.

*I add rue here because rue helps us cut ties and undo connections. She is a wise old crone that knows what we need, not necessarily what we want. She can unbind, uncross, and unblock us. If you feel a different herb is more appropriate for your needs here, please substitute as you desire.

**I add lilacs here because lilacs have so many magickal associations, among them abundance, prosperity, but also repelling negative energy, malicious spirits, and breaking through hardships or difficult times. If you feel another flower suits you best here, please substitute as you desire.

A Drink for the Yule Season

While most of us celebrate Yule only on the Winter Solstice, Yule is actually a season. If you have northern European ancestry, your ancestors likely celebrated Yule for a period of 3-10 days, depending on where they lived and what their cultural customs were.

The first day of Yule in 2020 is December 21st and the last day is January 1st. Throughout that 11 days, any custom you celebrate for Yule is appropriate, so don’t stress over doing things only on the 21st. I know some people who plan a series of family-oriented things or rituals each day to represent or otherwise celebrate the season as long as possible.

Whatever you decide, drinks are almost always part of the festivities, and if you choose not to drink alcohol, most Yule-themed drinks can be made non-alcoholic.

Here is a recipe my husband and I made up, which we nicknamed ‘Krampus’ because why not?

What you will need (makes 3-4 standard mug-fulls):

  • 4 cups apple cider
  • 1/2 cup cranberry juice
  • 2 Tbsp honey
  • 2 Tbsp sugar
  • 4 orange slices
  • 1/2 – 1 tsp Allspice
  • Nutmeg
  • Cloves
  • optional: 1/2 cup Scotch* (the smokier/peatier the better)

What you will do:

  1. Heat all the ingredients except the Scotch on the stovetop in a pan and bring to a soft boil. Remove from heat and let sit for about 5 minutes, then stir in the Scotch if you’re adding it.
  2. Garnish each mug with one of the oranges and any of the cloves if you want.

*We used Lagavulin 16, as its a nice smooth Scotch with just enough peat and smoke to really complement and contrast the sweet of the juice and cider. Any other Scotch would probably be fine though. You could also optionally substitute 1/2 of the cider with mead.

6 Magickal Affirmations to Grow Your Witchy Power

What are magickal affirmations?

Magickal affirmations are something probably many of us overlook, regardless of the stage of witchy practice we are in. I know witches and occult practitioners from novice to advanced that use this method to great success, so it would seem that its not just limited to being new at something.

Affirmations are simply positively-oriented statements that we repeat in our heads, or, for even better effect, out loud to directly and consciously change our thinking, perception, and eventually our reality.

Magickal affirmations are just applying this concept to enhancing our magickal abilities or building magickal skills and habits that we particularly want to focus on.

Orienting our thought around the acquisition of a skill or the building or a skill or ability not only puts it in the forefront of our consciousness, it also creates a direct energetic connection between our mind and our energy around this skill or ability.

How do affirmations work?

I like to think of these as a spell you do on yourself.

Affirmations create that conscious connection between our mind and our energy. This could be thought of as bringing our conscious focus to something as opposed to passively practicing something.

Think about the difference between these two statements:

I wish I could learn to read tarot more proficiently.

or

I am proficient at reading tarot.

One of those is passive and the other is active and takes possession of the act or ability.

You can practice reading tarot all day every day, but if the way you consciously think about being better at tarot is the first statement, a wish, you won’t get nearly as far as if you confidently tell yourself every day before practicing that you are already proficient or skilled at it.

This can be applied to any other skill or ability in your magickal practice, and similar to the way we write out an intention statement in the present tense (“I have acquired $100 to pay this bill” vs “I wish for $100 to pay this bill”), we are setting an intention and sending it out to the universe, but more importantly, to our self that we can and will do this thing.

Usually, affirmations are something we repeat out loud a number of times, maybe in a mirror, or maybe just ourselves upon waking or before bed. Perhaps they are something you say while getting into a trance state before a spell or ritual, or maybe you use them while meditating.

If you are unable to say an affirmation out loud for any reason, you can always focus intently on the affirmation statement in your mind, perhaps in a meditative state, or just while envisioning the desired outcome. Repeat as many times as you feel you need, usually at least 3.

You can also write out affirmation statements in a journal or diary if you are unable to say them out loud. I feel like this method does not work as well for me personally, however, that may not be the case for you, so try it and see.

What kind of affirmations should you use?

First, I think its wise to pick one or two things you want to change. If you have 10 skills or habits you want to make changes to, it won’t be as effective to work on all of them at once, as your conscious energetic focus will be spread thin.

Pick probably two max and think of what exactly you want the outcome to be. There are two main types of affirmations that most people will use:

  1. Obtaining or enhancing a skill or ability.
  2. Changing a habit, whether good or bad.

There may be others, but most will fall into one of these two categories when boiled down to their most basic form.

Just like a goal should be specific, so should an affirmation. ‘I am good at magick’ is pretty vague, but ‘My spells are successful’ is probably much better.

So nail down exactly what it is you are trying to yield from your affirmation practice. I’ve included some options here below, should you not really know where to start.

I am a powerful witch.

This one is kind of vague, but also can be used as a general confidence booster when you need it. If you’re going through a particularly low bout of self esteem or maybe just new to witching, consider starting here for a good all around magickal affirmation. This can also be used when you need to develop better ownership of yourself and your space.

Being a magickal practitioner that doubts themselves or doesn’t own their power and space can set you up for not just failure, but backfires in your magickal efforts. So, believe in yourself, you powerful witch.

I can affect my life in positive ways.

This is if you feel powerless and perhaps don’t think you can make the changes you seek, or don’t think that you really have much influence. Maybe you still live with parents who don’t accept your path, or perhaps you feel like bad things are always happening to you.

You can affect your life in positive ways, and as soon as you start saying it, you can move on from where you are.

I wield ultimate influence over every aspect of my life.

This is a bit more specific version of the previous affirmation statement, and good for when you need to claim yourself, your space, and your power/energy. This is for those who want to break free of toxic people or places, who need to step into their power finally, and for those struggling to realize they are just divine beings inhabiting a physical shell.

I am a successful [insert whatever you want here- profession, type of witch, etc].

Let’s say you need something even more specific to happen. Perhaps you just started out as a writer. ‘I am a successful writer’ or even ‘My work will be published this year’ could be options here.

‘I am a successful kitchen witch’ might be more what you’re looking for, as you learn more about a particular path within magick and witchcraft.

My spells are successful.

I don’t know that this really needs any explanation. If you doubt your abilities and don’t think your spells will work, then they won’t. Try this magickal affirmation each day to build your confidence.

I will learn [insert subject or skill here- tarot, runes, to control psychic powers, etc].

Again, self-explanatory. What magickal skills do you want to improve at? Create a magickal affirmation statement to build your confidence and consciously grow the energetic connection you have to those skillsets.


Hopefully that gives you some ideas for where to start with magickal affirmations. These spells on yourself require nothing other than your focus and energy while saying or thinking them and over time, if you do this for a month or so, you should see yourself gain the things you are asking for simply by applying your conscious focus to those efforts.

how to make a facewash spell

A facewash spell is probably one of the easiest spells you can do anytime you want and with very little witchy experience and/or supplies.

If you’re a witch on a budget, its pretty useful because you already wash your face anyway, and you may be able to do this with nothing more than common kitchen herbs or plants you wild forage (respectfully and responsibly). You can even use this as a replacement for ritual bathing in many instances.

What is a Facewash Spell?

Don’t overthink this. As you are washing your face, a usually common, mundane task, you are infusing this mundane act with your magickal intent to obtain an outcome you want.

And, any facewash can usually be done as a hairwash, or you can combine the two for more magickal power.

I also really like facewash and hairwash spells for those who do not have the ability to take baths regularly. Bath magick can be fun, but it can be replicated in other ways.

I used to only really ever hear of facewash spells in terms of glamour magick, and they certainly do work for that, but there are so many many more uses for this kind of magick.

Any spell you want to perform could theoretically be done via a facewash/hairwash spell, with the one exception being baneful magick. I would just not recommend doing a baneful spell in the form of anything you’re applying to your face and/or hair, as the potential for backfire can really wreck your life (and your appearance).

How Do You Make a Facewash Spell?

Ok, here’s where you can get creative in a number of ways. I’ll give you a few basic approaches, neither is right or wrong, they’re just different approaches and you can choose what feels most right for your purposes.

Option 1: Make a Rinse Solution

This is one of the simplest methods and is easy on both your skin and hair, as well as can be (and usually is) left in your hair to let it dry, or air dry on your skin.

  1. In a pot on your stovetop, bring several cups of water to a boil and add herbs, essential oils, plants, flowers, etc of your choice. Let simmer for ~20 min. Remove from the heat, then strain through a fine wire mesh strainer or cheesecloth to remove all solid pieces.
  2. Let it cool enough to be able to apply to skin or hair. PLEASE DO NOT EVER PUT SCALDING WATER ON YOURSELF.
  3. Using clean hands or a cotton round, apply to your face or gently pour over your hair. Depending on the type of spell, you may want to say a few words or a mantra of your choice. Whatever you decide, while you are applying the wash, picture strongly what your outcome should be. Your intent is the most critical piece of this.
  4. Also depending on the type of spell, you may decide to leave it to air dry, or rinse it out with clean water. Here are some general guidelines, but your own unique situation may dictate something different. Use your intuition.
  • Leave it to dry if you are drawing something to you or hoping to gain something (most constructive magick fits into this category); love, money, luck, success, opportunities, protection, strength, courage, etc
  • Rinse it off if you want to remove, cleanse, banish, or otherwise get rid of something; breaking a habit, ending a toxic connection, cord cutting, uncrossing, cleansing, purification, etc

Now, some exceptions exist. You could make the argument that in a purification wash, letting it dry instead of rinsing off, allows your aura to fully absorb the purifying herbs or essential oils, and, therefore, you want to leave it on. This is where intuition can guide you better for your circumstances.

Option 2: Make a Soap-Based Wash

I would lean more toward this option for all destructive magick (getting rid of, letting go, banishing, cleansing, etc), but you could absolutely use it for constructive purposes if your intent is restated in such a manner that the rinsing off of the solution indicates you ridding yourself of whatever is preventing the good or beneficial outcome you’re looking for.

Example: let’s say you want to do well in an important presentation at work and you need to feel confident. You could change up your spell to banish self-doubt or negative self-talk/thoughts so that you feel confident, beautiful, smart, or whatever you’re trying to achieve.

  1. Get a mild and gentle (ideally all natural or organic) soap base that is safe to use on your skin or hair. A really good option here that should work for almost anyone is organic unscented baby shampoo. This can be used on virtually all skin types, as well as most hair, if you’re choosing to apply to your hair.
  2. An alternative to baby shampoo is castille soap. Its usually gentle for skin. You may or may not want to apply to your hair, depending on how dry or oily your scalp is. You can mix a little castille soap with a little coconut oil for a bit more moisturizing base. It already contains some oil, but play around with adding an extra 1 Tbsp oil per 1/4 cup soap.
  3. Pour out about 1/4 cup soap base into a glass mixing cup and stir in a couple drops of any essential oils or add flower petals of your choice corresponding to your intended outcome.
  4. If you’re only making enough solution to use once, then it would be okay to add solids like minced, ground, or mashed plant matter, but these can spoil rapidly or create a medium in which mold can grow over time, so if it will be a multi-use solution, its best not to include physical plant matter.
  5. Pour into a clean empty cosmetic bottle with a lid of your choice. Label it. It should keep for at least a few months.
  6. Wash your face and/or hair with your solution, say any words or mantras you wish, and leave in/on for however long you feel is appropriate. Rinse off.
  7. It’s a good idea to test a small area of skin before applying any new products or substances, to ensure you are not allergic or otherwise sensitive to anything in the product.

Option 3: Combine a Rinse and a Soap

You can simply create your water-based rinse solution and, once cooled, add it to your soap base in a ratio of 2:1 soap base to water-base. Mix and then let it settle (this can take a few hours up to possibly a day).

This is a good method for when you want to work with a soap base but don’t want to be limited to just essential oils, and want the flexibility of more plants/flowers.

I can’t say enough how the most important element of this spell is being clear about your intent. Use strong mental visualization whenever possible and really feel this intent pouring into your mixture as you’re making it and applying it.

magickal benefits of milk baths

If you’re newish to witchcraft or folk magick, you may have heard of milk baths, but what exactly are they are when should you do them? They are a type of ritual bath, but can be just as varied as any other type of ritual bathing practice.

What is a Milk Bath?

It’s exactly what it sounds like. But, it can be as simple as literally just adding milk to a bath, or it can be as complex as warming milk with essential oils, plants, honey, flowers, and more for specific purposes.

Milk added to your bath softens your skin and just feels good, so you can take a milk for no other reason than you deserve some self-care time. However, milk baths have also been used in many folk magick practices across the world for things like:

  • healing
  • fertility
  • uncrossing
  • honoring a specific deity
  • love spells
  • cleansing/purification
  • prosperity
  • luck

How to Take a Milk Bath

First, this is simply a general guide, but, if you’ve been reading my posts for a bit, you know I’m an intuitive eclectic witch and if something feels right or you want to make changes based on your own intuitive practice, please don’t think that’s wrong!

At a minimum, you’ll need at least a cup of milk and a hot bath. What kind of milk is up to you, though. If you are vegan, I cannot personally speak to whether plant-based milks have the same magickal or spiritual properties as animal-based milks, so I don’t feel like I’m the right person to give you guidance on that.

If you are a vegan and take milk baths often with plant-based milks and would like to chime in, please let me know, I’m happy to share your personal experiences here.

Some people heat the milk first, but if your bathwater is hot enough, a cup of cold or room temp milk will not be a big deal.

Besides cow milk, I have known people to use other milks based on cultural or specific magickal practices, to include (but not limited to): goat milk, sheep milk, camel milk, donkey milk, and even human breast milk.

After adding the milk, you’ll want to completely submerge at least once, so all surfaces of your body are covered. Soak for as long as you want.

Things You Can Add to a Milk Bath

This is not exhaustive, but just some ideas to get you thinking of ways to level up your milk bath:

  • warm the milk with honey and add rose petals for a sweet love spell
  • warm the milk and add a few drops of your favorite essential oils for things like money-drawing, happiness, luck, and so on
  • milk baths or ‘white baths’ are commonly used in some Afro-Caribbean practices to honor or make requests of Obatala; usually these are done over the course of 8 days
  • goat milk is associated with the goat’s fertility, tenacity, and many Pagan deities
  • sheep milk may be a better symbolic option if you’re seeking an outcome that deals with peace, calm, and blessings
  • cows have many spiritual associations across the globe, so if you follow a particular path or symbolism is important to your path, consider how cows are viewed in that practice and what specific benefit they may bring
  • add oatmeal to your milk bath soothe and calm irritated skin
  • fresh flowers, based on associations for your intended outcome (love, money, career, happiness, healing, banishing, protection, etc)

Above all, use your imagination. Your intent and will is far more powerful than anything else you can use. As long as your chosen milk bath has meaning to you, its effective!

a candle spell for courage

This is an easy candle spell (most candle spells are) for courage in any situation.

Whether you want to ask for a promotion, go skydiving for the first time, or move across the country to a totally new place, courage is something that we sometimes struggle with, because of self-doubt, and our inner voice that talks us out of things we truly want.

What You Will Need:

  • At least one, but up to 3 of these dried herbs, about 1-2 Tbsp worth: fennel, borage, thyme, rosemary, st johns wort, nettle
  • Olive oil, about 1/2 tsp
  • a red candle and something to light it with

What You Will Do:

  1. Start out by cleansing yourself and your space however works best for you.
  2. Gather all your items into one location and cast a circle if you wish.
  3. Holding the candle in both hands, center and ground yourself, then meditate as long as you need to visualize what kind of courage, when and how you will need it and use it, and what you need the outcome of the courageous actions to produce.
  4. Transfer all of that visual intent and will to the candle energetically. Once it feels ‘full’, rub the outside of it in the olive oil.
  5. Roll the candle in the herbs to coat the outside of it as thoroughly as possible.
  6. Place it in a stable base or candle holder and light it. As you light it, remember your intent and why you need this courage. Say out loud:

Brave is my heart

Brave is my mind

I have the courage to act

and the courage to win

by this flame I call my courage up

as my will be done

7. Let the candle burn down all the way. If you have to leave and cannot monitor it, snuff it out, then re-light when you return and ensure it burns safely.

how to make a magickal oleum

An oleum is just a fancy word for an oil used for ritual purposes. They are different from infusions in that they are heated to incorporate the properties and components of the plant matter in them, rather than left in a warm location for weeks, such as with an infusiono.

And they are ridiculously easy to make.

What You Will Need:

  • about 1/2 – 1 cup base oil (if just making for yourself, you don’t usually need more than 1/2 cup)
  • about 1-2 tsp of each herb, plant, resin, or other ingredients of your choice
  • a pot, but a double boiler works for this too
  • a stovetop
  • a wire mesh strainer or cheesecloth
  • a clean bowl or glass measuring cup (easiest to get something with a pour spout)
  • a funnel (preferably glass, but silicon or plastic will be ok in a pinch)
  • clean glass bottles with lids or droppers; preferably dark glass to limit how much light gets to the oils inside

What You Will Do:

  1. Bring your oil to a soft rolling boil on the stove.
  2. Add whatever ingredients you have chosen.
  3. Turn the heat down to low and let simmer for 20 min.
  4. Remove from heat and strain into a clean glass measuring cup or other clean bowl through the solid out with a fine wire mesh or cheesecloth.
  5. Let the oleum cool for about 5 min. Pour into the glass bottles using the funnel.
  6. Label them however you prefer and store away from direct sunlight or heat. These can keep for up to a year if you keep them away from sun.

What type of base oil should you use?

Because this will be an oil that you heat up or boil to create it, you will probably want to choose a base oil that is more stable at higher temperature.

Avocado oil has the highest smoke point of most oils you’ll be able to get ahold of, so it makes a great base oil for ritual oleums.

Olive oil also has a decently high heat stability, at least enough to withstand boiling and not break down. Olive oil is also considered sacred in many spiritual belief systems, which is why I tend to lean toward this as my base oil.

Coconut oil can be an option if you use some that is fractionated, which means it remains liquid at room temp, unlike most other coconut oil which is solid at room temp. If your ultimate goal is to create an oleum that is more solid, then you can certainly go with standard coconut oil, though.

Regular old vegetable oil is also very heat stable and if you are on a budget, you can go this route. It’s usually made from corn in the US.

Canola has essentially the same effect as vegetable oil for these purposes and is also affordable.

Any other plant-based oils may not be ideal for high heat (boiling) and I would avoid using them, as they have a higher likelihood of going rancid.

As I stated before, I lean toward olive oil because it has a pleasant aroma, and its magickal meaning is important to me. I find it makes a great oleum, and its vibrations are higher and much more pleasant to me than the vegetable oils.

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